10 Things Homeschooling Has Taught Me {About Myself}

10 Things Homeschooling Has Taught Me {About Myself} - jenniferajanes.com

When I began homeschooling, I thought that I was going to be giving my children a solid education. I have, but that’s not all that’s happened in our homeschool. I have learned a lot about myself in the process.

10 Things Homeschooling Has Taught Me {About Myself}

  1. Flexibility. I thought I knew what flexibility was. Then my younger daughter proved me wrong. For years, I have had to be more flexible than I thought possible to accommodate her health situation, doctor and specialist appointments, therapy sessions, surgeries, and hospital stays. I have learned to “home”school in the car, waiting rooms, and on field trips near the hospital while we waited for appointment times.
  2. Patience. I remember getting very frustrated with my older daughter when she was having trouble writing the letter “n.” It seems ridiculous now, but it was serious business! I finally called a halt to the lesson, and we went outside and played for a few minutes. When we came in, we continued the lesson and everything worked out. She makes beautiful letters now. 😉 I’m glad I began learning patience early in my homeschooling career because I have had to grow even more since I discovered that my younger daughter has learning disabilities. The repetition required to help her progress is wearing without patience.
  3. Humor. I have learned that my sense of humor isn’t as well-developed as it needs to be to survive homeschooling. With each year that passes, I’m better able to laugh at things that used to set my teeth on edge.
  4. Teacher certification. My teacher certification didn’t help a lot when I had a child with special needs. I wasn’t trained in special education, so I’ve had to scour the internet, ask for help, and search for local agencies for help like everyone else. (You really don’t have to have teacher certification to homeschool. Even teachers don’t know everything. You CAN homeschool a child with special needs.)
  5. Serving. I thought I was serving my children well when I stayed home with them when they were infants and toddlers. Then we started homeschooling, which required a whole different type and level of serving them. The older they get, the more I realize how much they need me: to answer questions, to listen, to just be there. I continue to serve them each day, with God’s help.
  6. Giving. Because we have chosen to homeschool, I give a lot of my time to my children, who are both in elementary school. I used to think I was a selfless, generous person. It wasn’t until I had children, and even more when I began homeschooling, that I realized how selfish I am, especially with my time. That is an area that still needs work.
  7. Strength. I am stronger than I ever thought possible because God is working in and through me. Homeschooling, especially while working from home, is difficult. It would be impossible if I didn’t walk in His strength (Philippians 4:13).
  8. Tears. I cry a lot, especially in the shower (so I don’t upset my children). I get overwhelmed and frustrated. Homeschooling is hard. Homeschooling a child with special needs adds another level of “hard.” I have found tears to be cleansing and healing, especially since I cry out to God in the midst of the hurt, and He answers. For a long time, I didn’t cry, but when the dam broke, I realized how much tears are necessary.
  9. Resources. I bought curriculum-in-a-box for my older daughter. In fact, I still buy boxed curriculum for her core subjects. It makes my life easier because both of us know exactly what she’ll be doing each day of the school year: the next day’s lesson. That’s the way I like it, and that’s the way I started with my younger daughter. Except she can’t use boxed curriculum because she is on different levels in different subjects and needs extra skills work in some areas too. I have to find what works for her and go with it, so I’ve had to learn to look at resources differently (and to develop a whole new kind of flexibility). A few years ago, I realized that helping with two separate science and social studies lessons was ridiculous for our family, so I began searching for ways we could study those together. I am no longer a slave to the books in my house. I use them in whatever way serves us best.
  10. Love. The Bible knew what it was talking about when it talked about love being greatest (1 Corinthians 13). Because I homeschool and am with my children most of the time, I have the privilege of getting to know them intimately, and my love for them is deeper than I ever dreamed possible as I see them growing into the young ladies God has called them to be. When my older daughter talked about becoming a missionary overseas, my heart did flip flops. I know God’s love will carry me through if that’s her calling, and my love will have grown enough by that time to let her go.

What has homeschooling taught you about yourself?

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10 Responses to 10 Things Homeschooling Has Taught Me {About Myself}

  1. Teacher@Home says:

    Amen to crying in the shower!

  2. Tammy says:

    Love this! Yep, crying in the shower, before she gets up, deep breaths, breaks…all needed!

  3. Kristin andrews says:

    Growing up I knew you were the stronger one of the two of us. Having a special needs child is not the easiest thing to do. (as I know in too familiar of a way!) I am so proud of you! You make it look easy! Although, we both know it is not! You are doing a great job Mom!

  4. Kimberly says:

    I think God’s trying to teach me a lot of things – but I am so hard headed it’s taking a lot of lessons! One that jumps out at me is humility. Trying to wrap up the year, looking over the work DS has done and how hard I can be on him made me cry. I had to go to him an apologize (the humility part). Trusting God with his future is probably another lesson He’s trying to teach me. It’s harder now that he’s in high school and his future is so close. Fear of not teaching him enough causes some ugly behavior. Then there’s the need to constantly be in prayer. Now, today, my prayer is for God to heal the hurt my fears cause my son. BUT, I am so thankful God is always at work, teaching, and growing our family. Thanks for the thought provoking post!

  5. Thank you for sharing this at NextGen Homeschool’s “What’s Working Wednesday” blog link-up! I LOVE your list, and I am with you on many of these points. It has been a journey to realize that homeschooling is so much more than giving our children a “better” education. Thank you for sharing your heart, Jennifer!
    Renée at NextGen Homeschool

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