Our {im}Perfect Homeschool

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Our {im}Perfect Homeschool

I just want to clarify something.

I try to put my best foot forward on my blog. I think most of us do that online. We’re choosy about what we let others see about our lives. I do, however, admit to shortcomings, mistakes, and not-so-great weeks. If you’re around enough, you realize that.

Because I try to avoid whining and sharing things you would rather not know ;), I think some people think my life is almost perfect. It’s not.

Let me be real with you, and if you’ve gotten the wrong impression from what I’ve shared here, I ask you to forgive me.

I’m not perfect. My kids aren’t perfect. I live in an older home in an older neighborhood. We have struggled with plumbing issues, electrical issues, and falling tree limbs. (I wrote about a day I got hit in the head by one.) I struggle to stay caught up on laundry and dishes. (Fortunately, my husband and children help with that, but it’s still a struggle.)

I have to break up homeschool days to take my daughter to therapy sessions. It’s hard to do some lessons, leave the house, and then come back and get back into the rhythm again.

My plan for social studies for this year fell apart. We have worked our way through some Heritage History books, but we haven’t done the amount of notebooking I had hoped. It has been a hard year. I’m regrouping for next school year.

My younger daughter cries, sometimes for hours, about doing her lessons because learning is hard for her. On those days, it takes us a long time to finish school.

Sometimes I have to sweep under my kitchen table three times a day—and I still find crumbs I missed. Sometimes I don’t have time to sweep and have to attack it all during a quieter moment.

I spend more time enjoying time with my children than I do cleaning my house. (It’s ideal when I can get them to help me so we can do both at the same time. But ideal isn’t always what happens.)

I cook a lot of meals in the crock pot because I don’t like spending a lot of time in the kitchen, unless I’m baking.

I drive an old minivan that I’m thankful for because it’s paid off.

I spend a lot of time trying to pick up scraps of paper, marker lids, and other remnants of my younger daughter’s art projects. It’s an unending, thankless task.

Do you get the picture? If you’re comparing yourself to me and falling short, it’s just because you don’t know everything behind the scenes at my house.

I’m just like you—full of faults and flaws, struggling to make my home a sanctuary for my family, working to teach my children day in and day out, hoping no one else realizes how far short I fall myself, and . . . fully and completely loved by the God who made me, the One who forgives all my shortcomings and loves me simply because I am His.

The next time you stop by to read a post, remember the behind the scenes stuff. I’ll try not to sugar coat it too much.

Why do you think it’s important for us to “keep it real” online?

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8 Responses to Our {im}Perfect Homeschool

  1. Becca says:

    Online or in real life, I think it’s so important to keep it real. It’s so discouraging to me to see someone else’s perfect life – the ones who hide the realness. Even if I don’t live with the same struggles, it’s encouraging for me to glimpse another’s struggles. I find it hard to share with someone who isn’t real about life. It’s one of the reasons I struggle to connect in women’s groups; too much perfect going on in there. I am a stepmom to an Asperger’s 17YO boy. That in and of itself is so full of struggles it’s not funny. I can’t figure out how to get my youngest to stop chewing her clothes even though we keep trying alternatives for her. So just knowing someone else gets to the “I am pulling my hair out frustrated” stage makes it easier to breathe through my own.

  2. Me and my old (paid for) minivan like you and this post. :)

  3. Rebecca says:

    Love how you encourage – but protect your children. You do share that life is not always easy and you do it with grace, joy and peace.

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  6. sj says:

    I don’t usually comment, because I don’t know what to write. But when I’ve read here, I never received the impression it was easy or perfect for you.

    I could check a lot of the same things off. I make easy, healthy food, but nothing fancy because I don’t have the time or the diligence for that particular art. When my spouse is not out of town, he cooks. I am an artistic person, and I work it out by fixing the house.

    I think that everybody has their struggles whether they are comfortable writing or talking about them. Also, I’m grateful that I don’t have the worries of a large home and a fancy car (my car may look like it is, but it is going to be 9).

    Envy is not good for one’s health or spirit.

    • Thank you for your kind words, sj. There has been a lot of buzz recently about bloggers putting their best foot forward online and making others feel inferior as a result. It warms my heart to know that I have struck a balance between being real and transparent and not overwhelming people with the issues we’re struggling with.

      I agree that envy is not a good thing for anyone. I really appreciate you taking the time to comment on this particular post. I look forward to more visits with you!

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