How My Small yes Changed My Family in a BIG Way

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How My Small yes Changed My Family in a BIG Way

Reading Rhinestone Jesus by Kristen Welch has wrecked me. I have spent the past two weeks reading it and wondering how I can say YES to what God is asking from me, from my family. But the more I prayed as I finished up the last couple of chapters, the more I realized I have already said YES in small ways that God has used to change my family—and me—in BIG ways.

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I’m watching my younger daughter attempt to crochet a purse of her own design. She is smart, funny, and creative, and I can’t imagine our lives without her. As she once told us, “I’m glad God gave me to this family. Y’all wouldn’t laugh very much without me!” She’s right.

It’s startling to think that it could have all ended much differently. Both of my girls had choroid plexus cysts (CPCs) during my 19-week ultrasounds. This led to general freaking out on the part of our OB and to level 2 ultrasounds in a bigger city where they had all the fancy equipment. And we went through that both times. The difference was that, with my second daughter, there were several CPCs, and they were the largest my OB had ever seen. Before we ever left the office, he was talking termination and was spouting off the timeline we had to get everything done by. I stopped him before he finished telling me all the legalities and told him my yes:

“I did not give this baby life, and I can’t take it away. I will go and have the level 2 scan done, but nothing it shows will change my mind about this. I will not terminate this pregnancy.”

Four days later we were in another city, getting the level 2 scan done. The specialists doing and reading the ultrasound agreed. The CPCs were BIG.

The interesting thing was that, as in our older daughter’s scan, they didn’t find any other markers. We met with the genetic counselor to find out our risk factors and declined an amniocentesis. With no other markers, our chances of our second baby having Trisomy 18, which was the big scare, were not that great. Our older daughter was fine, and I had a peace that our younger daughter would be okay too.

But even if the scan had shown something different, I would have stayed firm in my resolve to give this child whatever life God had planned for her.

By my 30th week, the CPCs were no longer visible on the ultrasound in my OB’s office, so another level 2 ultrasound was unnecessary. Again, there were no other markers visible, so we anticipated nothing unusual.

In a plot twist only God could have foreseen, my younger daughter was born with special needs. Would they have shown up in the amnio testing? Maybe, but I doubt it. Genetics specialists are still trying to develop the tests necessary to test her!

I’m not going to lie. It’s hard. But knowing everything I know now—everything we would go through, everything we might go through, the uncertainty of the future—would I change anything?

No. I would still say yes. God has a plan for my daughter’s life just like He does for everyone else’s. She will fulfill her purpose, and I’m excited to see just how God works in and through her!

And, if I hadn’t said yes, I would miss out on moments like the one that occurred in my kitchen one morning this week:

DD: What are y’all talking about?

Me: Abraham Lincoln.

DD: Oh. Isn’t he the guy who died in that war?

Me: No, he’s the President who was assassinated in a theater.

DD: Oh, right. And he’s the same one who wore the invisible clothes, right?

Me: Are you talking about the emperor’s new clothes?

DD: Yeah, that guy!

Me: Uh, no. The emperor wasn’t a real man. That story is fiction. It’s not real.

DD: Really?! It was a made up story?!

Why would I ever want to miss out on awesomeness like that?

(You can read about another one of my yes moments at Comfort in the Midst of Chaos in Gas, Giggles, and a God-sized YES!)

Update: There is a follow-up to this post, “Saying YES is Always More Than You Bargained For,” at We are THAT family.

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23 Responses to How My Small yes Changed My Family in a BIG Way

  1. Oh Jennifer! What a beautiful YES story! And what a precious gift your daughter is. Thank you for sharing with us.

  2. Thank you for sharing your YES story. Each child is a special gift.

  3. One big “YES” in my life (there are usually more than one, right?) is the decision to go through life with my man. He has built his life around me and our children and it has been an enormous blessing to have such stability anchoring my flightiness. Of course, since we both are human, it takes negotiating and deliberateness, but it is so worth it, in both our opinions.

  4. Jessica says:

    I said yes to God to move our family to Texas. I said yes to seek a 2nd opinion on my breast cancer diagnosis and I am so thankful I did! This doctor has changed my life.

  5. Melissa says:

    We had CPCs with our second daughter… Scared me silly, but our doc was very reassuring. Our firstborn son was later dx’ed with ASD… So I’ve learned a bit about worry and how pointless it to borrow trouble! Enjoy your blog!

  6. Lori W says:

    I said “Yes” to God when he told me to adopt my daughter in China who has cerebral palsy. Getting to “Yes” was not an easy process, and I did more than my share of arguing with God, but I am forever grateful to Him for giving me the strength to say that “Yes” and bringing my daughter and I together as a family.

  7. I am so thankful you said that yes, too!

    I know we have talked about the amazing parts of our stories that are similar before, but this one always makes me smile for our answers and hurt for the doctors who suggested anything other than us keeping God’s gifts.

    Pony-Boy was the one the OB wanted to “selectively reduce”. I MAY have told him (the OB) to can the suggestion or I would selectively reduce him. I’m not always as nice as I should be and threatening my kids (because it really felt like a threat) brings out the height of fury in me.

  8. Carmen says:

    I am also witness to the awesomeness of both of your daughters, Jennifer. I wouldn’t trade my little nieces for the world. I’m so glad God gave them to you. And I’m glad He put all of you in my life. <3

  9. Love the “yes” story, too, Jennifer. It’s frightening how many times I’ve heard of stories like this where doctors want to terminate. What a blessing you are to your daughter and vice versa.

  10. Oh, that made me laugh!!! Your daughter is awesome–clearly the geneticists haven’t figured out how to test her level of awesomeness yet either.

  11. Cristi says:

    I say yes whenever I decide to get out of bed in the morning and look for something good or beautiful instead of complaining about the circumstances around me.

  12. Kate says:

    I’ve heard so many good things about this book, and would *love* to win a copy. The first ‘yes’ that comes to mind was the ‘yes’ I said to God when He called me to South Africa. What I thought would be six months of volunteering turned into ten years, a husband and three kids, and I am so grateful for His goodness.

  13. My yes happened in 2010 when I felt called to come home and then to homeschool my daughter. That first month was the hardest. It felt so opposite of what the culture says I should be doing. Quite honestly, it was the opposite of what I thought I’d be doing. Yet, I felt the tug. I said yes. Almost 4 years later, I can say it’s been one of the greatest blessings!

  14. Karen says:

    I said YES to God when he told me to Homeschool my daughter. As a Single Mom. And he has provided every single time. This is the 3rd time I have seen this book mentioned on social media today.

  15. Brittany says:

    I said Yes to a Bible study to help me grow deeper. I am so happy I have bonded with the women and am accountable to them. I love knowing I am not alone out their in my faith. God is getting ready to ask me to step out again with a deeper mission and I am so excited to say Yes and find out all He has in store for me and my family.

  16. Lena says:

    I said yes when the state of my marriage said no.

  17. Joy says:

    Love this! Hmm.. As for my big yes, fighting for my marriage, when it could have been so easy to give up. Also moving from where I grew up, away from all family. God blessed us more than we could ever imagine. I’m sure there are many more Yeses that I could mention. :)

  18. Vicki Arnold says:

    We said yes to a vasectomy reversal three years ago and I am so thankful for our Oliver!

  19. Nancy says:

    Beautiful display of faith! What a great reminder to us of how our yes, big or small can have such great rewards! Just by trusting Jesus!

  20. I love your story!
    I read Lysa TerKeurst’s “What Happens When Women Say ‘Yes’ to God”, and in the midst of it agreed to teach the Jr. High Sunday School class at my church. That may not sound like a big thing, but I had emphatically said “no” SEVERAL times….that age group is waaaaay outside of my comfort zone. I can’t say that I know what I’m doing, but I’m having fun doing it! :)

  21. Danielle says:

    My Yes was to hearing God’s voice & living the life He has given me!

  22. I said yes to Jesus when he called our family to homeschool. I love your story of commitment to him

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