Note: In lieu of my regular gratitude posts for the next several weeks, I am going to join with The Pelsers for the 7 Tools for Cultivating Your Child’s Potential book club. I have put off posting my thoughts about intentional parenting, even though I’ve mentioned the post several times and have been working on it for a few weeks. I finished reading 7 Tools this weekend and realized there’s a reason why I’ve waited. Read on:
Not long ago, BookGirl left for church camp. It was her first time to be away from home for that long, and the only time she’d gone anywhere overnight with anyone other than family. On top of that, BookGirl turned nine on the second day of camp.
That hit hard. If BookGirl is nine years old, that means my time with her is short. She’s already halfway to eighteen! From the reports I got from camp, she has taken to heart the lessons she has learned at home so far, but I still have so much to teach her!
I’ve written before (more than once, if I recall correctly) about needing to be more intentional in my life. I need that with respect to spending regular time with God. I need that as it relates to my writing. But most importantly, I need to be intentional about the time I spend with my children and what I teach them in the brief years I have them under my roof. (See Deuteronomy 6:4-9.)
Between now and when she leaves our home, BookGirl will have more opportunities to leave home for brief periods of time. That means more chances to put into practice the things we’ve taught her, along with tests to help her determine what she really believes, why she believes it, and to solidify those at the core of her being. I want to be a BIG part of that process. I don’t want her to have to figure it out on her own, or to piece it together through bits and pieces I manage to throw at her through the years.
It’s time to be intentional. Time to slow the pace, to take better care of myself so that I can be more efficient with my time during the day. Time to turn away from the computer or cell phone, remove my fingers from the keyboard (whether physical or virtual), move to a comfortable place, and really listen to her. See what’s going on in her head. Ask questions that will help her to think through and process everything that’s going on with her. Provide instruction and guidance, with God’s Word at the core of everything I say.
The time is now. If I wait until I’m less busy or life slows down, it will never happen. She’ll be grown and gone before I have that kind of time. If I’m going to do it, I have to realize that raising my daughters is the most important job I’ll ever have. It’s time to be intentional and do it right. Now.
That was my original post. After I began writing and trying to polish it, I started reading 7 Tools for Cultivating Your Child’s Potential by Zan Tyler in preparation for the book club that starts today. Zan writes of everything I expressed a passion for above. She writes about how to do it—how to make the most of every minute your children are in your home, to God’s glory. 7 Tools is the BEST parenting book I’ve ever read. My husband has been inspired by what I’ve shared with him and is going to read along during the book club. We’re ready to transform our family for the glory of God. If you haven’t read 7 Tools yet, grab a copy and start reading along with me! Join the club by clicking the banner below.